Anorgasmia May Be Why You Can’t Achieve Orgasm

Difficulty achieving orgasm can impact your confidence and your ability to enjoy intimate situations. If you’re frustrated or embarrassed that you’re unable to achieve orgasm (even when it feels like you or your partner are doing everything right) it’s important to know that many different factors can affect your ability to orgasm – and that your frustrations are normal and treatable. Here’s what to know about anorgasmia, what causes it, and how our providers at Tideline Center for Health & Aesthetics can help. 

What is Anorgasmia?

Anorgasmia is the term for the inability to achieve orgasm even with an appropriate amount of sexual stimulation. Anorgasmia affects people of all genders but it tends to occur more in women for a variety of reasons. It’s important to note that anorgasmia doesn’t always necessitate treatment – if you’re not bothered by it, then there’s no need to explore options. However, for many women, it’s common for anorgasmia to take a toll on their emotional health and intimate relationships.

What Causes Anorgasmia?

There are a few different types of anorgasmia. They include:

  • Generalized anorgasmia: The inability to achieve orgasm regardless of the situation or partner.
  • Situational anorgasmia: The ability to achieve orgasm but only in highly specific circumstances.
  • Acquired anorgasmia: The inability to achieve orgasm where previously there was no difficulty.

All of these types of anorgasmia can have a variety of causes. Let’s take a look at the major ones.

Physical Causes of Anorgasmia

Chronic health conditions or major events like childbirth can sometimes interfere with the ability to achieve orgasm. These factors may or may not be accompanied by related conditions like painful sex. Painful sex due to the aging process or hormone fluctuations can make it difficult to truly relax in sexual situations, leading to an inability to orgasm. Finally, certain medications like selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) are notorious for interfering with sexual enjoyment and function.

Psychological Causes of Anorgasmia

Mental obstacles can cause difficulty achieving orgasm just as easily as physical ones. Some of the most common psychological causes of anorgasmia include:

  • Low body image and self-esteem
  • Past emotional or sexual abuse
  • Anxiety and depression
  • Cultural attitudes toward sex
  • Past negative experiences with sex

Treating Anorgasmia

The first step in treating anorgasmia is accepting that you’re not alone in experiencing difficulties surrounding sex and intimacy. First, you’ll work with our knowledgeable providers to determine the underlying causes of anorgasmia. You can expect the highest level of compassion and discretion from our team while we help you explore ways to achieve your goals for intimacy.

If the causes are physical, there are a variety of technologies that can help reduce painful sex and increase sexual pleasure. You may also benefit from hormonal therapies to better balance your hormones. Pelvic floor physical therapy aimed at relaxing the muscles of the pelvis can be very beneficial. Finally, our team can help you adjust your medications appropriately if they’re determined to be a cause.

Psychological causes of anorgasmia can require the help of a mental health professional or sex therapist. Psychotherapy may help you learn ways to relax and reprogram your feelings around sex and intimacy so that you can feel fully relaxed during sex. Our providers will ensure you have a complete picture of your specific situation, and can help you find the right resources for your needs.

Whatever your needs for treating anorgasmia, your treatment plan will fit your level of comfort and need for discretion.

Schedule an Appointment

Anorgasmia can negatively impact your confidence, but it’s treatable with the help of our intimacy experts. To schedule an appointment, contact our office by calling or filling out our online contact form. We are located in Lake Success, NY and serve the greater Long Island area.


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