If you’ve ever tried to address your sexual health with a partner, you may have faced some unexpected challenges. Attitudes around women’s sexuality are complex and prone to misconceptions, which can make it difficult to have your needs met. Our own misunderstandings about our sexuality can get in the way, too! Knowing how to successfully address your sexual health with an intimate partner when you have concerns is an invaluable skill to have – especially when your concerns impede your overall wellness. Here’s what to know about this issue and how our intimate health providers can help at Tideline Center for Health & Aesthetics.
Understand That Women’s Sexuality is Complex
It’s often thought that the process of sexuality and sexual arousal is straightforward – the body’s desire for sexual activity motivates us to act, which leads to arousal and orgasm. However, for many women, there can be several other steps involved. The reasons for this are multifaceted, and studies around women’s sexuality have been severely lacking for a long time. Start by recognizing that this is a complex topic that many women themselves don’t entirely understand – and that other factors like age, hormone levels, cultural upbringing, religious exposure, health, self-confidence, and much more can impact it.
Pick an Appropriate Time
Conversations about intimacy don’t have to be long – in fact, setting a limit of, say, fifteen minutes can help you manage any feelings of anxiety you might have about it. Pick a time when you’re both unbothered by exterior factors and especially when you’re not engaging in or planning to engage in intimacy. Having a clear head is key to communication.
Admit Your Discomfort
Sexual topics can be difficult to talk about, especially if you’ve been previously taught that these topics are taboo or off-limits. Open the conversation by admitting that you’re nervous about bringing your needs to light and ask for reassurance that you’ll be heard.
Formulate Your Approach
Understanding what exactly you need from your partner is key to good communication. If you need more frequent intimacy, picture how often that would be so you can find a compromise. If you want more romance, consider ways your partner can fill that role. If your partner isn’t meeting your physical needs during intimacy, come up with ways you can both feel satisfied. Or if you feel that intimacy has become too routine or predictable, picture ways that sex could be more exciting. Think about what exactly you need and how your partner can give it to you.
Continue the Conversation
A one-time conversation doesn’t always fully explore the topic. Make sure to return to your conversation with your partner so you can build off what was previously discussed, and check in to make sure you’re both fulfilling the plan. You’ll find it easier to have these conversations the more you do it – leading to better overall communication.
Meet With an Intimate Health Provider
You might find that your sexual health issues can’t be addressed with only your partner. Things like difficulty orgasming or low libido can have medical reasons, which are best addressed with a healthcare professional. Or, if your conversation with your partner doesn’t produce results, an intimate health expert can give you the language and tools you need to succeed. Just like you would go to a doctor when you feel sick, you should meet with an intimate health expert when your sexual wellness requires care.
Women’s Sexual Health at Tideline Center for Health & Aesthetics
To meet with our team of intimate health providers, contact our office today by calling or filling out our online form. We conveniently serve the greater Long Island and Queens, NY areas.
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